Understanding Anticipatory Grief: Navigating the Journey

Anticipatory grief occurs before a person experiences an impending loss. The individual may begin processing the emotions tied to the upcoming changes and separations associated with a death or other losses. Anticipatory grief can be challenging, yet it offers an opportunity for preparation and personal growth.

What is Anticipatory Grief?

Anticipatory grief is the emotional response we experience when we anticipate a future loss. It is most commonly associated with terminal illnesses, where family members and friends begin to grieve the impending death of a loved one. However, anticipatory grief can also occur in other scenarios, such as the loss of a job, the end of a significant relationship, or the transition into a new life stage, like retirement.1

This form of grief encompasses a range of emotions, including sadness, anxiety, anger, and even relief. It is essential to understand that anticipatory grief is a normal and valid response to an anticipated loss. Recognizing and acknowledging these feelings can help individuals cope more effectively.

Terminal Illness

One of the most common scenarios where anticipatory grief is experienced is when a loved one is diagnosed with a terminal illness. Family members and friends may begin to grieve the loss of the person they knew, as the disease can change the individual both physically and emotionally. During this period, loved ones often experience a rollercoaster of emotions, including fear of the unknown, sadness about the loss of shared plans, and sometimes guilt over feeling relief that suffering may soon end.

Aging Parents

As parents age, their children may start to experience anticipatory grief. This can stem from the realization that their parents are becoming more fragile and may soon pass away. Adult children might grieve the impending loss of family traditions, guidance, and the roles their parents played in their lives. This grief can be compounded by the stress of caregiving and the desire to make the most of the time that remains.

Relationship Changes

Anticipatory grief can also occur when a significant relationship ends, such as a divorce or a breakup. In these cases, individuals may grieve the loss of the relationship, the shared dreams, and the identity they built as part of a couple. They may also feel anxious about facing the future alone and redefining themselves outside of that relationship.

Job Loss or Career Change

When faced with an impending job loss or a significant career change, individuals may begin to grieve the anticipated loss of stability, identity, and purpose. This can lead to uncertainty about the future and mourning the end of a chapter that defined much of their daily life and self-worth.

Coping with Anticipatory Grief

While anticipatory grief is a natural response, there are ways to navigate and cope with these difficult emotions:

• Acknowledge Your Feelings: Allow yourself to experience and express your emotions without judgment. Understanding that all the feelings you are experiencing are valid. 
• Communicate: Share your feelings with friends, family, or a support group. Talking about your emotions can provide relief and help you gain perspective. The programs Faith & Grief offers are created to offer you opportunities to share your story and find connection with others.
• Seek Professional Support: Consider contacting a therapist or counselor specializing in grief to help you process your emotions and develop coping strategies. You could also attend a Faith and grief workshop or retreat to spend time tending to your grief.
• Create Meaningful Memories: Spend quality time with your loved ones, engage in meaningful activities, and create lasting memories. The Faith & Grief Memorial Arch offers a place to remember your loved ones.
• Practice Self-Care: As the flight attendant instructs, “Place your mask on first.” Ensure you care for your physical and emotional well-being through healthy eating, regular exercise, and mindfulness.

While anticipatory grief may be painful, acknowledging and addressing these feelings can help individuals find peace and acceptance and aid the grieving process.

Resources 

Grief Matters UK. https://www.griefmattersuk.org/resources

Coping with Grief and Loss: Navigating the Journey of Healing. https://www.supervisionandcounseling.org/post/coping-with-grief-and-loss-navigating-the-journey-of-healing

Handling Transitions in Life. https://www.impact.com.sg/post/2018/03/19/handling-transitions-in-life

Dr Nisha Todi – Dr. Nisha Todi – Clinical Psychologist. https://www.drnishatodi.com/author/salterra/

What Is The Difference Between Stress And Depression In 2025? https://close-to-nature.org/difference-between-stress-and-depression